Emotional Behavior

This is some behavioral change I am talking about which I observed in a human being. How do people perceive themselves and how do they like to be perceived, its a totally different thing I think!

I started seeing a certain change in A`s behavior for some days. She said she feels that she wants certain people to perceive her in a way she thinks she likes. So she went ahead and started incorporating some changes in her behavior. Slowly people started noticing some change and started asking questions. I had a good talk with A. Finally she opened up to me, not all but partly. I understood what she meant but then I gave her an example which sort of blew me away, yes ME ! Sometimes some things are not clear to me or I have a problem and most of the time I get my answers while talking to people, be it friends, my kids, or R. I don``t know but voicing and speaking about a problem, stirs some things in the mind and what comes out is mostly a solution and you all know I believe in COMMUNICATION! It Works!!! So, confront a problem and see what happens. I have also told my girls from their Kindergarten days on, if you have a problem face it heads on, face it until it becomes a habit or a behavior. Then the course of the problem changes and the Status too, because you have learnt to deal with the problem and you can cross it out as one. It becomes normal. Now they are so used to doing it this way and I am so proud of them. I can give you dozen examples, which they tell me after coming home from the University and school, what they did and it Works! It was very hard for them in the beginning but now they know, this is the best way to deal with any problem.

Types of Intelligence

Until a few months ago I didn't know there are types of Intelligence. I just knew either you are Intelligent or not. Simple! We were having our Koch Klub (cooking club) and when we were talking about the Blog I told a friend of mine that "I am not that Intelligent", needs a bit time to understand technology and then I said that I was anyways an average student in School. That's when she said Ity its not that you are not Intelligent but you have different kinds of Intelligent. Then she explained it to us that there are about 9 different kinds of Intelligence which includes Social

Spiritual

Emotional

Intellectual (which I think I am not on the top),

Linguistic

Musical

Body and movement....so how much we got.......5 OK....let me think !!! the rest is

Personal

Natural (don't we all know that) I think. So there you go. We have about 9 different kinds of Intelligence. When I checked google for this, it showed some complicated non everyday life workds for these, But the above works for me. In today's world if someone is not "so called" "Intellectual" Intelligent then he/she or we all say....this person is an average. But hey !!! now I think no, I cannot judge the person just like that. May be he or she has not got one Intelligence but they could have something from the other 8 left. And trust me they mostly do because God has given all of us something or the other. Knowing this truth felt really good to me and I started seeing myself and also other people differently. Sometimes they say "Ignorance is a bliss but in this case it surely was not.

Concept of a Joint Family

Where do I start here. This topic is really "Joint" as a Joint family, where relations, relatives, cousins and people you know never have an end. Its like a creeper growing by a big tree where you will never figure out where it ends and where it started. Its all very green and Jung lee but beautiful!! That`s how I grew up knowing so many people around me and it felt great, good, safe, protected and loved. We still live that way back home in this old Haveli.

I also had an opportunity to travel just a little bit in the State of West-Bengal (Darjeeling) where my Mamasa and most of my mother`s family lived and worked in the tee gardens. It was a very contrast life from what I was used to in Jaipur (Rajasthan). I must be 7 or 8 years old. We took a train for over 36 hours to Siliguri and from there we were driven to the wonderful Tee garden of Longview. Everything was so different, the air, the people the atmosphere, India is really diverse, I didn't realise that then, that time the feeling was kind of a bit of confusion but you don't really think that much. Kids just go with the flow and when your mom is around you just don't bother. But I still don't have any words to explain that feeling. I still remember the time when we entered in the Bungalow (real beautiful, British styled place) it was like in the movies. I was a very shy kid then. That's where I saw a live piano, a Table Tennis table and a billiards table in my life and that's where I tried to learn to use cutlery while eating. It was a bit too much for this little shy girl of 8 years old. But I survived and I learnt a lot without knowing that I am learning something. The place was done in a very British way but the atmosphere was very Indian, very respectful, humbling, happier

Forgiveness

Last week something unfortunate and totally unnecessary happened, which is called an accident. Why do accidents happen? We really don't know and we always keep looking for answers for them, like what if I had not done this, or what if she would have been a minute late this would have been avoided or gosh it would have been so good if he missed the bus and so on. We keep beating ourselves up with this and many more questions, but never get answers, at least I never got mine.

So, as I was saying about an accident, my mother was hit by an on coming motorcyclist. They both fell on the road. My mother got hurt near the eye and on her foot, she got stitches at both the places. She and my father were stopping by some shop to pick up some stuff, while my father was waiting in the car. When she didn't return after some time, my father got worried and that's when he saw crowd gathering on the road, that's when he sensed something was wrong and went to see what was going on. To his utter shock, panic, stress and utter sadness (I cant even imagine) he saw my Mom :( on the road. They picked her up and ALSO the man who hit my mother and drove both of them to the hospital for treatment. WHY???? HIM???

Nightmare

I went to the bathroom, put the light on and with the shock of the light which you get at the middle of the night, I started to look at my face with my half closed eyes, it felt so empty, naked and a bit sad. It has been with me for the past ten years and now without any warning or ultimatum is was gone. I was sad, wanted to wake R up, but anyway I knew he will not be able to help me in my silly problem.

I came back to bed again, very restless and so badly hoping for a miracle to happen, which  I have been shown from up there many times, big and not so big ones(I do believe in miracles, really no pretence)
I heard the quietness of the night, which was a bit scary but with the time passing I started to get used to it and it started to feel peaceful, quiet and silent except my heart was feeling anything but those things.  What I was hoping to find was like a needle in a haystack.

I felt very disappointed, sad and this time I really hoped for a miracle this last time for this day. I know I am a bit greedy, but I do that at times, and where do you go in such a situation where you most definitely know that a miracle from up there is needed.

Diavolezza

Its been such a long time since I wrote something. I have been tied up with so many things, home, kids, M has her final year in school and plus me trying to organise some events. It sure takes a lot of time but is very fulfilling and satisfying for me. I like it when I don't how much time to think, well........most of the time. Then one day.......I sit back with a hot chai and rewind my past weeks and days and enjoy the little things I have achieved.

Last week I had the opportunity to Cook Indian with some professional Italian Chefs in a Restaurant at 3,000 mts high in the middle of the Swiss Alps or as Eric has said to be more precise 2978 mts, the Swiss precise way! Diavolezza is a mountain in the region Graubünden in the area of Pontresina. Diavolezza is one of the famous Ski resorts in the area. There is this restaurant cum Hotel Berghaus Diavolezza where I visited.

It was Silvia`s (Hotel Managerin) idea to do some Indian cooking lessons there as now-a-days there are herds of Indian tourists coming up there and as you can see on this page http://www.diavolezza.ch/ there is only this Hotel cum Restaurant there. And if you know anything about Indian vegetarians it has got to be their way or no way. I told Silvia besides the point of serving them vegetarian food for business reasons its the good Karma that counts for me. Tell me who can give you a plate of Dal-Chawal at 2978 mts, even if you hand over a fortune. But Swiss tourist friendly people do that. I am so looking forward for her feedback on how it is going with the Indian Thali up there.